Heart of the Matter Blog

A collection of insights into life, love and the search for truth



What can you do when the Governor of your state says, “Stay Home, Stay Safe”?  Well, I thought of something:


Announcing my very first book!  Published by Stone & Feather Press, October 7, 2020. Can’t Stop the Sunrise is the inspiring story of one person speaking up over decades to reveal the truth that so many have tried to silence.

Immersive Storytelling,

Useful Skills for Rebalancing Power, 

a Roadmap for Personal and Collective Healing,

an Examination of Patriarchy and Privilege,

& a Guide to Transforming Corruption

Vanessa Osage introduces a warm, wise, fiery, and relatable voice to the cultural reckonings of #MeToo, institutional abuse in the Catholic Church, and cover-ups in elite boarding schools.

What happens when a former student steps off the legal path and insists on honesty? 

This story illuminates a nation’s value system through its gender roles, sexual health, body politics, news, and education.

“Why is it okay for the headmaster’s nephew to do what he did and get away with it, while those who commit more minor offenses are immediately expelled?”, asked a student at an All School Assembly at Lawrence Academy of Groton, Massachusetts, in 2014. 

To understand that question and all of its implications, we must look back. Can’t Stop the Sunrise explores the origins of one school, inside one society, while tracing the life of one student who challenged the corruption she saw and decided to do something about it. 

    Most importantly, to resolve that question, we must look forward. 

Can’t Stop the Sunrise is a much-needed breath of fresh air  – a message of hope that points the way to a new solution.

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Just before the world-as-we-knew-it shut down, a fabulous parent educator named Casey O’Roarty reached out to ask me to be a professional speaker on her Joyful Courage podcast. This is my hour-long interview on the Sex Ed for Parents of Teens Summit. Our topic? Emotional boundaries, codependency vs. clarity, abusive vs. healthy relationships, a framework for talking to kids about sex, and more . . .

Listen here!  https://drive.google.com/file/d/1MfYVgIZhNGn7x3uw0auJxoSNB4NUEQBY/view?ts=5ec80d84



Sometimes, when corruption is everywhere you turn, and the work of transformation leaves you weary . . .
Humor Heals.


A feature article in Coaching World, of the International Coach Federation (ICF), published September 19, 2019




I was just featured (May 2019) as a contributor to a Fupping article on emotional health. See if you can guess which book I suggested (my clients have a good chance of hearing about this one from me). Here’s to the emotional health revolution!



Another gem from the archives: The theme was  “Liminal Spaces & Altered States”, from The Confluence Journal, Winter 2017.

Dancing All Three


The prompt was “The benefits of a period party”. I know it as a Red Party. The lifeblood of humanity – as represented in the female body – deserves to be celebrated!



An oldie, but a goodie. Here is my first published piece in print. “Ascending, On Being a Mentor”, from the 2016 Circles on the Mountain “Wild Card” Issue, #22. Scroll the page 57 to read my philosophy on what it means to fill this role for anyone in our lives.


Ok, who wonders about the nature of language and how that shapes culture? Ever given serious thought to the way we use curse words? Only proceed if you are ready to question the way we talk about sex, and giggle at some adult-language-words. Enjoy.

Featured December 17, 2018 on the Role Reboot blog: http://rolereboot.org/sex-and-relationships/details/2018-12-get-the-f-out-of-sex/

Or, in full here: 


What was that storm that blew through the American (worldwide?) consciousness this late summer? A woman was compelled to share a very relevant truth and hold someone accountable. It had never been done to that extent, and with such consequences. It was a high moment in a rallying cry for far better encounters in the sexual realm. It turned out rather oddly… But what did it all mean?  My spoken word piece:


Have a listen to my conversation with Emma Johnson at WealthySingleMommy.com on the Like a Mother Podcast. Emma gives away $1,000 of her own dollars every month to single moms doing amazing things. I was selected for November 2017 as the “Kickass Single Mom” grant recipient.

How did I get into this work? What is a rite of passage? Who was my inspiration?  Hear my very first recorded conversation online. 


So, how do we begin talking to kids about sexuality?  What are some guidelines, parameters… give me context, please!

A piece I wrote for the Youth Passageways Network blog, called Speaking Reverence, Speaking Truth. Written for rite of passage guides, but relevant to anyone who cares for and oversees young people (and longs for more comfort in addressing sexuality).  Enjoy!